2011 was not just a year.

True, it was not just a year, it was a milestone. Sure every year is a milestone we come across and we have no choice otherwise. For every person there is that one special year he/she would treasure for a lifetime. So, here are some of my experiences from 2011 which made this year my treasure forever.

Let’s start from January, oh yeah I had the best dinner ever with my best friend. Been to the same hotel before and after but it was never as good as it felt on dat one day. On the same day I got my call letter from my company. I had my training in Pune so I went by flight, first flight and it was out of the world. Pune was awesome. Cold place, in complete contrast with Chennai in every way.

February, first time in 22years I had a surprise birthday cake from my Patni Pune training batch mates. My best friend didn't wish me on my birthday. 12 people, who I never talked to before wished me on that day. Interesting birthday this year.

Next 2 months, March and April were filled with fun and laughter. Met new people from my batch, learnt a lot about the India I never knew before. Well my batch had 32 people from 16different states, what an opportunity to learn right? Tried a few things, some worked out and some didn't. Misunderstandings, friendship, different people, different cultures, love and a lot more. Patni Pune training was the best thing that ever happened to me so far.

May month I got my posting to Chennai. Back to my hometown after 3 full months of complete freedom. Was a little hard to digest dat I’m gonna lose all the freedom I had in Pune, but its Chennai, well u can sacrifice anything to be in Chennai. Best place in the whole world. My farewell was at Mumbai. Yes, almost the whole batch traveled to Mumbai, the city of dreams. Right from the start of the journey it was an adventure. But the fun lasted only for a day. Oh and I got a proposal too (can't miss dat out). Then my second flight, after a whole day of hugs, tears and farewells, I started back with a bar of Bournville.

June, I bought my first car. It’s not much but it still is my first car and the thrill can never be explained. Gifted the car to my dad, after all he was the one who taught me how to drive (and I’ve been told dat I’m very good at it). July, bought my first DSLR camera. When you're a photographer, buying a DSLR is way more exciting than buying a car. Had a team outing, made new friends, good friends.

Did I write about my team yet?? The best team to grow with, not because it’s always fun to be @Ecom, (it IS a lot fun to be here) but because, a year spent in Ecom would shape me for my whole career. No matter where I go, with the experience I’ve had at Ecom I can survive anywhere, even if I quit IT industry. So, Mr. Bear Grylls, next time you wanna get yourself in a tough situation and survive, try Ecom Run.

So the next 4 months I spend them with my team, surviving. Rich experience, rich learning opportunity and the best way to start a career in IT industry. I'm sure anyone from my team reading this blog will agree with me. Finally, December, office cubicle decoration, exchanging gifts with each other, Christmas and I buy my first business phone (well technically, it’s not here yet, but I’ll be getting it soon). 

So that’s it, a whole year passed away in the wink of an eye. Made new friends, broke few hearts and laughed like hell for the whole 365 days. It was a year filled with love, laughter and blessings. I thank God, the Almighty for giving me this year, no one can ask for more and I never asked for this, which proves, yet again, God is good.

2011 was not just a year, it was a beautiful experience. @22 I don't think the year can get any better. Now it’s New Year, 2012. I'll be 23 and a new journey awaits. New hopes, new dreams. As excited as a kid near the gates of a chocolate factory, waiting for the gates to open. Hoping for the best. May God bless everyone and lets all have a wonderful new year 2012. 

Cheers..!!

False Identities

I see people smile all the time. Sometimes I wonder, are they really happy, how can they be so happy when we're stuck with this work that makes us so tired and exhausted. When we have so much work to do, so many questions to answer, so many people to get to, what gives them the right to be so happy? I used to think, life is unfair, some are always happy and some always struggle.

What I fail to notice is that, there were times when I was happy, smiling, laughing and having fun, the others who I envied were watching me and thinking exactly the same thing "Why the hell is he so happy". This is what I want to talk about. Not just the misconception, but also the veil we put on sometimes, for others to think we're fine, we're happy, like we don’t have any worries in life at all.

In the morning hours I get a chance to watch all the people in my cafeteria. Some discuss politics, some talk work, some talk men (yes they do) and some talk women (well, don't we all know dat). But some people are really alone, like, me for instance; I buy a tea or coffee, stand in a place with a good view of the whole cafe, and look at all the people around me, study them, their behavior, gestures, body language and stuff.

I’ve seen a girl who always sits alone with her breakfast and her coffee, talking on the phone for the whole breakfast hour. There’s this guy who gets his food and sits alone in a table and moments later he is surrounded by people who like to have their breakfast with him. Can’t say if he cares about them, but they feel dat if they spend their breakfast time with him, it'll be all the more interesting. Not just them, there are hundreds of people in my cafe each morning and all of them giving me a hundred different examples to learn the way of life.

So y did I put "false identities" on the top when it’s just about my breakfast and morning tea (it’s actually at every break I get to have, from bf to lunch, evening tea and dinner later). What I’m saying is that most of us are hiding, either behind our laughter or behind a straight face. One who laughs hard, has something inside of him dat makes him worry (stands for a 'her' as well). The one who always keeps a straight face, will be the most enjoyable company, he just needs the right situation and the right, exact amount of push.

Consider the cops for example, or men in power generally, they all have a straight face, army men (oh whenever I say men, can read woman as well). They all have a straight face in their work place, among their juniors, but when it comes to fun and enjoyment, they're on the front line and they make the whole party come alive. All we have to do is catch them when their defense is at its weakest best (which translates to, an excuse to party)

This doesn't just stand for the people in power alone, it stands true for everyone. The random boy, who bitches about everyone and everything, is maybe just afraid that people might think he's weak. The girl, who is always laughing and making others laugh, is hiding some bigger sorrow in her. Each person has a story behind their every gesture, whether it is a smile or a tear. And they all have a "false identity" to cover themselves up, in front of the society.

Read people, try to understand each other's emotions (not each other's minds, which is impossible btw). Talk to people without any hindrance or hesitation, u have no idea what each one has to offer, experience wise and morality wise as well. The mind of a human being is the most complex puzzle in the world to crack, and, as Occam's razor says, the solution is often very simple. Talk to each other, love each other, never have any hard feelings on any person, life is short to be angry on anyone or anything. Life's good. Love it while u Live it (and I think I’ve already said that once)

Cheers!!!

A Few (Face it) Facts

These are a few facts about boys and girls, the misconceptions and misunderstandings between them. Well someone has to talk about it and it better be me (i like advice from others only as much as the person next to me). I'm just laying out some points that i've encountered in my life so far, but the judgement and decision is totally at the reader's risk :P

Boy, every girl wears makeup, whether you like it or not, even the ones you perceive to be ugly. There’s no way around it. Girl, most of us know that you wear makeup so there’s no point denying it and fyi, we luv the subtle makeup u do and all the techniques you use to try and hide it afterwards, when its still pretty obvious ;)

Girl, boys like their space, every man needs his own space. We let u in doesn’t mean u can tamper with it. Just let us have it, we’ll just luv u more for the space you give us (oh and the boy who says he likes to be always checked upon, he’s lying, soon he’l get tired of it). An occasional “hi, what are you doing” is fine, just don’t keep doing it every other hour ;)

Boy, girls are possessive whether you want it or not. They’re insecure, jealous and possessive, just the intensity varies from girl to girl, some are just enough some just go over their limit dats all. If you don’t like a girl being possessive on you, don’t be subtle about it. Just tell dat to her face and convince her (atleast try) that u’re hers and nobody else’s (well dats kind of your job when u’re in a relationship right? to give her the assurance) (and being honest does score some points)

Boy, a girl you like, well has a lot of expectations but lets not talk about dat. A girl who likes you, wants you to sweep her off her feet, to literally lift her up (either develop your body to lift stuff, or choose a suitable girl and impress her, don’t end up impressing the wrong one). This expectation is true for all girls (no matter how much they deny it, they’l luv it when u do). Well, there’s a reason to use the “sweep her off her feet” phrase so often right? :P

Girl, a boy tries to figure you out (yes he does). When he fails he just gets angry (our animal instincts act up, can’t help it). He’s always trying to understand what you want, constantly, sometimes u’re just not helping us by not telling us wht you want and that can cause a whole chain of prblms in a relationship. Not ur fault though, this aspect of a girl I can never understand, why won’t u just let us know wht you want so that both of us can be happy, always above me.

Well, end now. A boy always wants to explore, let him explore ur mind so dat he’s always finding out something new (and u’re safe until u slave us with marriage :P). Don’t let him get bored of you, by which u don’t always have to do something new to keep him to urself (surprise gifts can help make him happy though :D), just let him be wht he wants to be and he’l luv u for dat. A guy likes his freedom; let him have it, everyone’s happy :)
 
A girl is emotional; everything about her is in her emotions. She lives in a world of fantasy. Understand this fact alone and u won’t even have to try and understand her any other way. I’m not telling boys to always respect a girl's emotions, but if u do and give in to it, u get to be the gentleman she always wanted :)

Among all the facts I can talk about physical intimacy, I thought this time around I'll stick with perception (don't wanna let all the secrets out at the same time :P). Kind of hard to decide now, right? Well that’s wht a relationship is all about, always hard to make a decision (for good or for bad :P). And these are just SOME points, there’s a lot we can discuss about this, I mean, a LOT. :D

There are no signs !!

Nope, absolutely not. We've been fed with the wrong information over signs and signals for long. But, ladies and gentlemen, let me tell you, over the past few years, i have learnt there is no signal, there are no signs. None!!

Please don't have the wrong notion that this is a rant becoz of my failure to read signals. Oh i read them very well and thats why this blog. The reason i'm saying ther's no such thing is becoz, it can change any minute. They say "the future changes, everytime you see it. Its becoz u see it and that changes the future", yes its from a movie, no its not an Indian movie.

Now back to the point. There must have been a lot of encounters, with these so called, signals, from the people you admire, sometimes from a distance, sometimes a bit close. But, no matter whatsoever, there is no such thing called a signal or a sign (yes i'm saying the same thing again)

Let me elaborate. I have seen boys who go crazy becoz the girl (while gazing into a crowd of 100) saw him once. I have seen girls who sit and drool, just becoz that guy she likes, smiled at her in the queue (of over a 50 people, atleast) at the counter. What we perceive here is, "maybe he/she likes me as well" but the fact is "he/she don't even care about you unless u man up (help me out here, i don't know the word for women) and actually start talking with the person".

No, i don't wanna deviate from my topic. Where were we, oh yeah! no signals. So, we misinterpret these random gestures of courtesy. I strongly suggest that we don't. Its not gonna work, sitting and dreaming.

Okay, now, lets say they were even true. So what, when you go tell him/her that you have read their signal right, do u seriously think they're gonna say "wow, u did???" (well they do in movies, out of question, in real life people have real ego :P ). In real life they wudn't dare accept that you have caught their signal right. So whats the point of even trying to interpret it. Just think of this, if u get it wrong, its wrong; if you get it right, still its gonna be wrong. Come on!!

Now, the end. If u want to sit and read signals and signs, u'l end up single forever, and get caught in the Indian arranged marriage market. If u decide that u've met ur man/woman already, and u think they send out a signal for you to reach out to them, then do it. Reach out and start talking (never mention sh*t about their signals, makes them look weak). This way, if they like you they're gonna continue talking wit you, and if they don't they'l just give u BS and ignore you. Either way, u have a result in your hand (so you can start searching for ur next soulmate :P) and u've still kept your dignity (thanks to, not mentioning your misinterpretation of signals, phew!)

Signals, they might be genuine, they might be for you and you only. But unless u reach out to the person and talk, u're never gonna get along with them. So, instead of sitting and dreaming, walk over and talk (oh btw!! boys, beware of eve-teasing cases and harassment lawsuits :P ) Cheers..!!!

Chetan Bhagat - An Indian to be proud of

Well despite his best of efforts, Al Pacino couldn't pocket the most coveted "5 Diamond Award" thanks to the Ocean's 13, but my favorite author did it again and I feel honored to present him the "5 Diamond Award" (just in theory of course)

I just don't understand, how can this author give 5 good books in a row. From his debut "Five Point Someone" to his "Revolution 2020" in '11. But he has done it. 5 books so far and all 5 feel good to read, give a sense of greatness (kindof) once i get past the last page and close the cover of the book (pretty good cover designs, on all 5 of them).

I was in college when i started reading his books. With the limited money, i could only borrow the "Five Point Someone". Same goes for the "One Night @ the Call Center". Amazing love stories in both of them.

I was in my final year when i bought "The 3Mistakes of My Life", a cheaper second hand version from  a road side vendor (i had a generous pocket money flow, thanks to my final year project :P ).

2 states cost Rs.95 if i'm right, and that was as soon as i finished my college and was waiting for my call letter. I bought 3 copies. 1 as a gift, 1 for myself and 1 to lend (anyways ended up lending them both, and haven't got em back yet :/ ) (planning to buy another one for my shelf :( )

Revolutions 2020 cost me Rs.140 (started working so i can easily afford it now :D ). Bought 2, 1 for myself, 1 as a gift. (Trust me, it does feel good when u gift someone with a nice book such as this one, especially when u gift it already and later find out it was not a wrong choice for a gift)

I know this blog does not talk much about the author, but i had to give such a vague lead story for this punch line that follows this dot. "To my future generations, I can proudly say that I saw this author grow, that i was there when he published his first book and he didn't disappoint me in his successive books".

Yes, I do feel proud to say that i grew up along with Chetan (the writer, not the person himself, he's elder) and he was my inspiration, to write (i mean, this blog) and to my courage to express whats on my mind in an (almost) witty, non-offensive way. I would like to say this again, "Chetan Bhagat is an Indian to be proud of".

And i must admit this, i fell in love with the lead girl characters from all his books, within the first few lines that describe them as a person, but in this book, (apart from falling in love with Aarti) i respect Gopal (never felt so much respect for a character in a book).

P.S.:- I think its good that they have included the new symbol for Rupee on the back cover for the book's price. Don't know if the author had his hand in this, or it was mandatory to use it, but i appreciate the thought to include it, given the ideas expressed in the book. (i know, i notice a lot, another potential advantage of reading, Chetan Bhagat :P )

People i wud like to have a coffee with

With the 4 other people of our 5 member gang (boy do i miss dat)

With the 31 other people from my Pune Training Batch (who gave me wht i missed in college, a good time)

A soldier from the Indian Army (had the chance to talk with and army man once, not over coffee though. He was a good man, a proud one for that matter)

A pilot from the Indian Air Force

A Sailor from the Indian Navy

Joel Osteen (he preaches life and its practicality)

Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam (a beautiful mind)

Dr. Irai Anbu IAS (one of my role models growing up)

Anchor Gopinath (the one person i know, who really understands his "freedom of speech")

Periyardasan (the expertise in his field and the way he's expressing it, mesmerizing)

Bastian Babu (such profound thoughts and a very practical man)

A. R. Rahman (if photography changed my view of the world through my eyes, i'm sure one coffee with him will change the way i listen to the world through my ears :) )

Hans Zimmer (the only person who can give me peaceful sleep (his music) after a bad day at office, which is, well, quite often :P )

Enya (guess she's the only woman on this list (if dats her real name), except if the soldier, sailor and pilot are all men :P )
(hopefully, the pilot wud be a girl, i wud luv to sit and chat with a woman pilot from the IAF :) )

Sachin Tendulkar (a man who knows how to learn, knows how to teach. And i wud like to learn that frm him)

Barack Obama (the one person i see, as the definition of "change")

Rajinikanth (I have one question for him, just one :) )

Jim Carry (a man who wud fall, fight, cry, even die, just to make us laugh)

Al Pacino (the one and only Godfather. Still going strong)

Hugo Weaving (the second reason for my lov for English as a language, first being The Bible :) )

Gautham Vasudev Menon (the only movie director that made this list??)

Vincent Versace (understanding natural light, he changed my view of the world through my lens, the whole perspective)

Micheal Jordan (definitely need a photograph, standing beside him :P )

William Henry Gates (who wouldn't)

Larry Page & Sergey Brin (ditto :D )

Mark Zuckerberg (well, after watching social network, if not a coffee, couple beers will do  :P )

The Bucket-List (when I was 22)

1. To find one more perfect girl and fall in love with her (don't even try to guess who the first one was, and its definitely not my mom, don't take me for a sentimental BS'er :P )
2. To have my photograph featured in any one of the world's top 10 photography magazines (preferably on the cover or the middle page..)
3. To have one of my photographs of my city hanging in any of the city's top cafes' "wall of fame"
4. To write a book. (yeah exactly like him, even if i'm not gonna get so famous :P )
5. To have tasted all that is edible in this world. (process already started actually, must get there soon)
6. To wear my favorite pair of jeans again (its a size 28, as if dats ever gonna happen.. :/ )
7. To fly.
8. To drive through the streets of Barcelona.
9. To spend a month on the Fiji islands. (without my cell phone)
10. To die of a heart attack. (i don't have the looks already, whtever i currently have, won't survive a cancer or even an accident :D )

The Ex-Friends

There are relations, relatives, the blood relations and the non-blood relations. The non-blood relations, i really don't understand this whole concept. I mean, why do they stick around? what keeps this relations going? is it love? just love cannot keep any relationship intact, I mean, come on. Is it trust along with the love? Are they in debt? I just don't understand the working of this "non-blood" relationships.

Let the questions be. Lets not try and answer them. If life can be beautiful with the questions, y search for the answers. :)

Well, above all the faith, love and all those invisible elements that keep the non-blood relations intact, sometimes they tend to take an EX in front of them. An Ex-Relationship, Ex-Wife, Ex-BF/GF, an Ex-Father-In-Law, Ex-Mother-In-Law, but we never see an Ex-Father, Ex-Mother or any Ex's in our blood relations (even though they might forget us faster :P)

Still there is one relationship that never takes an Ex before its label. One non-blood relationship. One relationship that sticks around and never even thinks of parting ways. I mean, to part is never an option in this relationship. If u're in it once u're in it for life. Not a curse but a blessing.

No matter how much we fight and misunderstand each other, no matter how much we talk or we don't talk, this relationship is always there between us. I personally, have had a lot of misunderstandings with people, becoz of the way i talk whats in my mind (its jus becoz of the way i say it, not becoz whts in it :P). Still when the other person hears my name somewhere, he/she will say, "I have a friend who goes by that name".

Yes, friends, they never take an EX as their prefix. There is no Ex-Freind anywhere. Parting our ways is not an option when it comes to friendship. No matter how less we talk, no matter how far we're apart, when we hear the name, when we hear the voice, we recognize it. We forget ourselves, our position, our stature and go back to those days when we were together.

We cry, we have a heavy heart, when a friend would leave us to be in a different city, different country, even when we know he/she is always reachable. Why, its pointless, what makes this relationship so strong, what keeps this relationship going. A 3 month friend gets hugs and tears when he has to leave for his hometown after his training. A 7 year friend is still remembered everyday, even though its been more than a month since he left us. Why? like i said, we don't need answers when questions can give us a purpose and keep us smiling.

No matter how much i write, i cannot make justice to this particular relationship. Just go out and be friends with people, u will always be surprised with what they give for u in return. Lets live a life filled with friends not regrets. Freindship, its always in there, always with us, no matter how far or how high we reach in life. Friends for once, friends forever.

Few days back my friend told me on call "I still miss that fun we had in our training days, and i'll always miss it buddy". Two days back, my another friend told me "hey, we'll always need friends". That's when i felt, i just had to write :)

The beautiful Girl from the bus next to mine

There is this fall-side of being a photographer. U can admire a lot, notice the unnoticed, make the most negligible sights in everyday life look beautiful in your photograph. But somethings u can only admire from a distance. U can never get to own them. Try sunrise, sunset, a butterfly, a full moon, a droplet and a beautiful Girl from the bus next to you.

There are these moments in life dat take ur breath away. I witnessed such a moment today morning. I was in my usual mode of transport on my usual route. But today something unusual happened. Lucky i was there to have witnessed it.

There was this bus coming from the opposite, a big tour bus, probably with tourists from other countries. I was just watching the bus, its interiors, the ambience inside this bus was damn good. Then came the 4 window (or 5th or maybe even 6th.. i'm not sure.. i don't care) crossed my eyes and there was this girl sitting there. Her face so clear and calm, just flashed in front of my eyes for a couple seconds.

That perfect free falling hair. Those perfect eyes. Ofcourse she had her make-up on, i mean who doesn't nowadays. In a normal white Tee. Wow. Totally made my day. In my office today, nobody could give me a hard time. I was happy all day. The man who holds her hands is so blessed, he gets to have a great day, everyday. All he has to do is wake up and look at that calmness in her face.

I mean, I saw her face once and it's gonna mess my head for a really long time :P

She's probably from a European country but she looked Indian, dark hair. I'll probably never get to see her again. Well, like i said its just one of those moments and they never fade away.

The 'L' word

Does it exist? What gives this word such power to control two minds? To walk out of a family just to be with your loved one? How do u go from 'hating each other totally' to 'head over heels in LUV'. Yeah thats the L word, Luv.

Some love their profession, their parents, their pets (yuck) but lets cut the crap. This love i wanna explain here is the love that brings two people together as a result of mutual attraction, either physically or mentally. Yes, i said 'cut the crap', u first get attracted and only then u fall in love (like the way we fall for the new mobile phone in store)

Ghosts serve a purpose, to scare people. But who does it really scare? people who are afraid of it. U wake up around midnight and see a chair in front of u, someone is sitting on the chair but u see only a shadow. You can do two (or more) things, one, to pull your blanket over ur face and call God for help or two, u can switch the light on to show yourself and others dat its just the shirt and jeans u have dropped on the chair just before u got to bed.

Showing yourself scared and showing yourself not scared, either way u accept ghosts before this world. If u're scared, obviously u accept ghosts. If u're not scared, here's the funny part, u're trying to prove that ghosts doesn't exist. Well to disprove something, means to accept the idea of it (here, lets say a ghost, not love :P)

Why am i telling this pointless 'scary' story over here? I'm just trying to say, either u believe or u don't believe. If u believe, it exists. If u don't, well u don't wanna accept it, doesn't mean it don't exist. Luv, as we perceive it, is a beautiful "feeling". How do we measure feelings? simple, we just don't. When we start to measure, we lose the whole point of "feeling" and the relationship crumbles (yes it does, but lets not go into dat right away :P)

I'm just searching for words to describe luv, well u just can't. Its all about belief, trust and faith. When u wanna describe something happening to you (but then the word was not there at the moment) u give a name to it, like fever. When u wanted to hide the word "attraction" from others (coz u think it sounds cheap) u name it LUV. However the perception of luv differs between people, cultures and countries.

Yeah, i'm just blabbering stuff like i'm drunk. Well, can u describe sunrise to a blind man? U just put before him, pointers which he can fetch and make a picture out of it. Now, when he sees sunrise (if he gets to see it) he's always gonna be surprised. I'm just giving such pointers here, when u're gonna experience it, u'll always be surprised. :)

Now in my country we got "arranged marriage" and along with it comes the (pointless) clash between 'Luv before marriage' and 'Luv after marriage' (luv before marriage is just not accepted here for God knows why). Hell, its love, its a feeling, feel it when u find it. Marriage is just a bond, a form of insurance. Its just a part of life. Luv is not part of life, luv IS life. Marriage could be the completion of a successful luv, or the beginning of a budding new luv. But its always gonna be LUV.

Finally, u don't have to believe in Santa Claus to get ur Christmas gifts, u're gonna get it anyway. Likewise, if u don't wanna believe it, then don't. But someway or the other u accumulate LUV in u. You just perceive it in a different fashion. U put a name to it, label it, GF, BF, Lover, Fiance, Would be, Husband, Wife, nevermind, its always gonna feel the same, its always gonna be luv.

Luv, the best gift u can ever offer to a fellow human being (even if its not the 'i wanna marry u' type of luv). Well, describe it however u want, Luv does exist and sooner or later its gonna find you. When it does, just respect it and embrace it.

P.S.:- Yes India, i'm talkin about the luv that comes after marriage as well, wouldn't want the young people to 'accidentally' read this and fall blindly into a quicksand now would we :P

The Teenage after 19

Let me state an obvious fact. Nobody likes a teenager, nobody. Doesn't mean they're hated by all. But nobody likes them.

Imagine u accidentally fall from a bicycle, in view of "our society", at 6 u're so cute and determined to learn cycling, at 60 poor u, strong at heart but weak in ur body, at 16??? "these teenagers are just irritating". Yeah thats right we've all heard these words in our teenage atleast once. There are only a handful of people who would pick us up and dust our back for us.

But i'm not gonna talk about all that. I wanna talk about my present phase. At 22, i'm living the teenage after 19. From 20-29 (a boy will probably get married by 29, so for girls let it be from 20-26) we live the 2nd phase of teenage. The phase which runs to the boy who fell from his bicycle, picks him up and says "next time try to be careful" instead of slapping him.

Its worse than the first phase. In the same scenario, at 16 u're known as irritating, but at 26??? u're drunk. Doesn't matter how much self control u've had growing up, coz u didn't wanna be called a drunkard, "society" labels u DRUNK. If something got stuck in ur throat and u start coughing?? u must be a chain smoker and u deserve it. Doesn't matter how much u hate smoke and cigarettes, u'l be labelled a smoker.

A boy and a girl are casually sitting in a coffee shop, talking about their bosses who are giving them a hard time at work. Every pair of eyes that pass by them thinks they're lovers and gossips on them. For all we know, the boy could be her own cousin, the girl could be 2 or 3years elder to him or worst case the girl or the boy could be homosexuals. Why do u "have to" comment on them.

I agree to the fact that some of us behave indecent in public, but not all of us are drunkards, smokers or lovers. We're just people, part of ur society, trying to get through a difficult phase in our life where nobody else accepts us, just bcoz they cannot think like we do, coz their minds got slow and narrow once they got to their 30's.

We have the freedom of speech and the freedom of thoughts, doesn't mean we've to abuse our rights. Hell we can even jump from our terrace but how many of us do that?? So, my dear "society" before passing a comment on someone (especially who is in this 2nd-teenage phase) lets just wait and think for a minute "what if we were in their place".

And its time for the punch "to understand and accept a person, who's in their 20's is possible only by another person from the same age group". Speaking of understanding and accepting, i'm 22 and i'm single. My dear fellow girls at 20's, please make a note :D

Be "Incomplete"

Well 100s only work for us in cricket. I mean, seriously, how many of us got a 100 in atleast one subject for a whole academic year? 100 is not good, especially when it gets personal.

What happens if u work 100%, well ideally its not possible, at all. What if we try to put in a 100% at work. First thing to lose would be our health (like we care). Second, our family (huh?). Third, fun time with our friends (wth?!?.) and the list goes on.

Why does mystery, fiction and thriller have such a big fan following?? coz a good mystery novel is not complete until the last few pages. You keep searching for the answer. Keeps you captivated coz u didn't see its 100%. But once you reach the last page, well ideally the book goes into the shelf and never gets to see the sunlight again (atleast not by our hands)

Well, enough of the boring part, lets get to the exciting part. Yes, a relationship. I believe a relationship fails becoz the person who walks out knows everything about the other one. Knowing something new about someone is always exciting. So, what happens when there's nothing new to know about in a person?? The excitement is gone and along with it goes the interest in that person.

Try this out, always leave a topic half said in any conversation. Even with friends, always stop and swallow your words just before "oh! its time to leave". What happens, tomorrow you have something to talk about. Tomorrow you'll have a reason to meet, coz u have something to talk about. Tomorrow you'll have a reason to wake up, coz u wanna meet and talk with someone, and the chain goes on.

Don't play dumb, don't be cautious, just don't let everything out. Wow, such a simple gesture, to hold back something. Maybe thats why there's a very big rumor that its always the girls who walk out of a relationship. We boys don't shut up, when we like a girl we just talk everything that crosses our mind to her coz we want her to understand us. Not working, coz the "understanding" part is never true. What happens is he/she gets bored at the end. Coz u keep repeating the same stuff. There's nothing new or exciting about talking with you.

Its not their fault they got bored, its our fault. Well, ain't that true, sleeping in a classroom - our fault or the teacher's fault?? She's the one who talks her mind out, no wonder we feel sleepy right when she opens her mouth. Now come on, what can be new and exciting about a 100 year old math theorem, when everyone knows everything about it already..!! :P

5 Disadvantages of Television

1. Everyone thinks you're fat (coz the "cool" guys in the television are always so lean and built, with 4 to 12 packs in their abs, God knows why). Yes i'm fat, i like to eat. Go to hell. :P

2. Mom's fav prog, u gotta starve till the end. Ur fav prog u'll die of suffocation, either with her food or with her advice (don't watch too much TV, yuck)

3. A big (and often pointless) argument with DAD, either about the sliding economy or (if u're lucky) about that "fair" girl he wants u to get married to (after 4 years anyways, now wht the hell..!!!!!)

4. Now this is a typical scene in any house, anywhere around the world. Sister (or any siblings for tht matter) gets into a fist fight just to have the remote control in their hand, but we both end up watching the same channel anyways (why the hell does it even matter who has the remote. Sigh..!!)

5. Yeah, my personal favorite. GIRLS!!! (got a list of their own, as usual :P)
      -they think they're FAT coz the girl in there is perfect.
      -they think they're DARK coz the girl in there is perfect.
      -they think their eyes LOOK BIG, coz the girl in there has perfect eyes.
      -they think they're TOO TALL coz the girl in there is perfect.
      -they think they're TOO SHORT coz the girl in there is perfect.
      -they think.... (all the sh*t there is to think about) coz somehow the girls in there are always perfect (atleast for them, no u don't wanna get in there)

Enough said, well i guess i won't be getting my free coke tomorrow. To hell with it, i'll get my own cool drink :P

Girls = 10 * (Boys)

I think thats the closest anyone has ever got, in understanding a woman. So, yes i wanted to start writing a blog, wanna share whatever's in my head with anyone who's interested to know. Couldn't find a more interesting topic to start with.

Women, i like women. For me they're the second best creation of God (first being sunrise ofcourse, can't beat sunrise) and for long i have heard debates on this topic, Girl Vs Boy, understanding the world of feminine and stuff. I have a bunch of nice friends. This "theory" of mine is based on my experience with my friends relatives and people in general (both men and women)

Yes, as it says on the top, Girls = 10 * (Boys) - unphysically speaking (unphysically means i'm overwhelmed to use my writer's license to describe, stuff that is not physical). I'm strong, doesn't mean she's 10 times stronger. I'm hard and rough, doesn't mean she's 10 times harder than me. It's all in emotions, feelings, expressions, everything that is not physical. Well they're the most complicated parts of being human isn't it.

This theory is all about, i love her? she loves me 10 times more. I hate her? she hates me 10 times more. I feel bad for doing something that hurt her? yes she feels 10 times more worse when she hurts me. For boys this is best described "nuts", yes ofcourse coz emotions and feelings are not real for us, not something we can see or hold. We don't believe in them, or we don't wanna believe in them to make ourselves look more "manly". Girls would say this is stupid, that i'm talkin all rubbish and i'm an idiot, ofcourse, coz thats how my theory holds. :P (and girls have this beautiful ability to deny everything pointed out directly to them. so,)

So, from next time onwards, beware. If u THINK u're angry on her, she too THINKS she's angry on u, only 10 times more. Show ur anger on her, she'll show her anger on u only 10 times worse. Don't know how long this theory will hold good. Well after all, boy or girl, they're both human. He has a mind of his own to think and interpret. She too has her own thoughts and feelings and emotions. Instead of trying to understand each other, lets try to accept each other, despite of their imperfections (yes that sounded like a forward SMS). Lets start loving, lets start living coz in the end, Love is what matters. :)

Love is what matters, yes most of them would agree. But does love really exist? or is it only for those who believe in it? well thats another topic for another time.