What we like !

Ever heard the famous saying, "I have no idea what she's thinking"? I'm hoping this new series of blogs might solve such issues.

First let's talk about likes, yes it differs based on our background and circumstances, but in a relationship, with the right perspective, you can decipher it without having to talk about it to each other. Men and women have different tastes and likes. It's always harder to understand what your partner likes or why anyone would like that. Well, let's get right to our topic.

Men like new. Ever wonder why actresses come and go? Why they cannot stay at the same rank forever? I mean if someone is hot she's going to stay hot until old-age takes over. And of course women age like fine wine, but still they couldn't keep their place in the field. Old actors have a bigger group of female fans, whereas old actresses couldn't keep their male fans in their purses. This is partly because of hormone changes, both natural and induced/artificial and also because new actresses can always replace old ones and get to the top very easily(and hence the induced hormone changes).

For men, new is good, new is exciting. It could be anything, a new car in the market, a new bike, new watch that's trending in their work/social neighborhood. New technology, new gossip(true!), new girl in the campus, you get the picture.

But it's kind of hard for the girl to become something new every day. Solution is to do something new to keep your guy on leash. Some tips would be a new makeover(not too much), a new perfume(yes we notice if we really like you), a new dish(you've heard it right, the way to a man's heart is indeed through his stomach, palate to be precise). A new dressing style, well here it gets tricky, new does not mean weird, new means different from the usual. Again, do not over-do this, when it comes to dressing, being presentable is on top of everything else. So there it is, new is always attractive for men. Careful now, new things doesn't mean we like to go shopping for them, it means exactly the opposite, it's doing something new not buying something new (although surprise gifts are much appreciated).

There is a difference between the way Men and Women look at movie stars. When a guy looks at an actress his mind goes "whoa! hot!" basically he's just admiring her, which is why the heat wears of quickly when there's a new girl in town. When a girl looks at an actor, she thinks (as usual). She goes "who the hell is he? new guy?" If he's not famous yet, then there's a high chance his look factor will go un-noticed. His history is important here.

Ah! now our favorite subject, Women. What does women like. Big question really, but I'm going to try and simplify the answer here. Women like big. Yes, let me explain. Notice the world of cinema. Women are attracted to big names. Think of any favorite actor of your girl and look at his history, let's say first movie. Nobody liked them in their first movie appearance, but once he got famous, say a big director's movie or a big music director's songs or he gives a box office hit and suddenly girls are on him like anything(and that's how actors can keep their positions much longer). The list goes on, big cars, big bikes, big pay-slip, big house(with excuses such as comfort and accessibility), tall and well built (but not fat) guys.

How can this be resolved in a relationship, well get her big things (making her something big is fine, but frankly you cannot make a big car in your garage, you have to buy one). As I always say, women are emotional, so big words(song lines, movie lines, take your pick) and big experiences(surprise weekend getaways for example) would go a long way in a relationship. Also big stuff. Let's say you bought her a teddy bear last time, once you've run out of gifting ideas go for a bigger teddy bear(it works). Big promises(only if you're planning to keep them, or else they do back fire). So there you go.

By the way, Women have an unfair advantage here, they can make new things out of themselves. As I said, a new hairstyle, new dress or a new perfume can really catch a man's attention but what would a Man do, he cannot keep getting bigger. Well that's for another time to discuss.

Cheers!

P.S:- About the favorite actor thing, well she's going to deny it when you ask her about it(read my previous blogs). There's a process. First ask her for the name then ask her what was his first movie. If you don't know that answer yourself you can always google it. Now there's a high chance the movie name she says is the one he got popular on or the one someone said, was his first movie, once he got very famous. After confirmation go with the truth, if you really plan to have a heated argument over it.