5 Questions

Relationship is a mess, most of them are, but a beautiful mess. But wherever we find a mess, we clean it or we at least try to. I have here, 5questions that can clean the mess out of a relationship, suitable for most of them.

I write these questions in a girl point of view, as in a girl/woman should ask them to herself. That is just because it is easier for me to talk from a boy point of view, coz I know what I want from her.

Let me just state that, in all fairness, the 5questions stands good for boys as well as girls. Whoever wants to save their relationship ofcourse. When u’re determined to leave him/her then who’s to stop you.

So when do we need these questions? What to do with them? How are they gonna help us out of a mess? When I first told them to a friend I was talking about problems in a relationship and how to overcome such problems. So it’s for the bad times, obviously.

And, just to make the thinking process simpler and easier (especially for the girls who think a lot, hence resulting in arguments and ultimately –breakup) I’ve added answers to the questions as well.

So, next time when u get so angry that u wanna burst out into an argument, when u feel the urge to fight with each other, hold it for a few seconds, think of the questions below,

1. What will it do to him?

 - It will destroy him, irreparably.

2. If I did the same mistake and he was there in my position, what wud he do?

 - He definitely wouldn’t wanna lose you.

3. Is my point worth the fight/argument?

 - If it’s gonna destroy your partner and ur relationship, then obviously it’s not worth it.

4. What matters the most, proving my point or him?

 - Do we even need an answer for this question? Ofcourse, it’s your partner.

5. Can I just put this all behind me and jus hug him tightly and kiss him?

 - Well, I could get killed for this coz I let the secret out. This is the punch line, the whole point of this blog. Whenever u feel like fighting just drop it, run to him, hug him, works every time. He’ll forget everything, he wud even turn his back on this whole world for you, all he needs is one hug, one kiss (after marriage that is, if I should add, for my Indian folks)

Think this through.

Have a happy valentine’s day..!!

Cheers!!

True Love

What is true love? Okay then what all constitute to be "not so true" love? Can true love happen more than once? We're gonna see some answers for some unanswered questions.

You're in a relationship, things don't work out, one of you doesn’t want this breakup, and ultimately you have a bad breakup. Leaves a scar in you, u're permanently wounded. When u’ve had such a bad breakup from a very bad relationship but still u don't remember the bad things, they never come to your mind. All u have in mind is the beautiful 6months u got to spend with them and u'll treasure it for the rest of your life. True Love!

You see the perfect woman (or man). The one u've seen only in your dreams so far is now standing there in person and speaking with you. You get to know her (him) so well right from your first meet. You fall for her (him) but still don't say her (him) that. Not out of fear or shyness. When you're brave enough to say, "I don't deserve her (him), I'm not so worthy. She's so perfect; she deserves someone better than me. I'm gonna make that happen in all my power so that she'll stay happy forever". True Love!

You spend 4 months with a person. You love them so much. They're not much of a caring type. They ignore you, not intentionally. They just don't know how to care for you. They're numb to love and care. You get annoyed every time they ignore you, but still, whenever you go to bed at night, as soon as you close your eyes, you remember that magic moment that happened once, which has no chance of happening again and all your anger goes out of the window. True Love!

You know a person very well. You like everything she (he) does for you. You have already fallen for the person but you don't show that out. Either from the fear of losing her (him) or u're just shy to express. Maybe even worse, you don't know how to express. You just keep everything to you and once you lose them, sit in a corner and cry thinking "what did I ever do wrong". Not so true Love! (They say Love gives you courage and power, makes you do things that you never thought possible. True love does that, I have personally experienced the power it gives. So when you're just afraid to express its not so true Love) (btw, don't know how to express, just means you're afraid to express, u knw very well how to, u're just scared)

I guess explaining it the other way would be better!
Not so true love: fear, scared, not expressing, don't want to lose him/her, don't wanna hurt anyone (total BS), want everything to go smoothly, "you should only come and talk to my parents", "I luv u", "I'm so happy", "What have you done to me", "U're so romantic", "u cud've been a little taller/fairer than me" - oh wait! Did I miss to mention this, saying the right things too often, or saying the wrong things (which are both same, pretty much) have a high chance of being "not so true Love!" ends in breakup every time.

Now, the 3rd and the most important question, Can true Love happen more than once? Ideally I should say, it depends on how you define Love. But, since most of us get spineless when it comes to love, I'd rather say it out. YES, True Love can happen more than once (but not with more than one person at the same time, please). Love is not a person to live once and die once. And everything else that is not a person can happen twice or more than twice.

Love is a feeling. You have 365 days in a year, how many days do u feel good/bad/worst/happy/sad. If these are feelings, essential feelings on which we build our life and if they can happen more than once, they y not Love. Love is a feeling which we build our life with and it can happen more than once, it has to happen more than once. If you will Love only once in your entire life, then u'l never have a relationship/marriage.

Falling for the same person more than once is true Love and it is the same as falling in Love twice. This is very essential to keep the relationship/marriage going. If you don't fall in love for her/him again and again all through your life you'l just lose him/her. Same stands for falling in love for the second time. Okay u just got out of a relationship, u're deeply hurt, but if u don't fall in love with the right person when they show up to you, just because you feel guilty that u've had one love already, then u'l lose the right person forever.

Fall in Love at every chance you get, thats how your mom and dad are still staying together amidst all their disagreements. I see my parents fight sometimes, but there's not one day they didn't talk to each other. They fall in love with each other at every chance they get, a simple smile, my dad's fav dish, mom's fav TV show. Giving time for each other, the true sacrifice, thats all it takes to build a good relationship.

Fall in Love, Love is good and most importantly, express it!!